About a month ago, one of my sisters tagged me in a video she recorded of Family Feud, a game show where two families compete for a cash prize by trying to find the most popular answers to a variety of questions. My sister wrote:.
My sister tagged me overweight dating this post knowing my background in fat studies and sexuality studies and as a fat masculine personknowing I would agree with her frustrations. Instead it perpetuated body terrorism against fat bodies to score cheap laughs. The myth: The fact that this myth is the most popular of the six given answers — 34 of the people originally surveyed gave this or a similarly-worded answer — is troubling in itself.
If a classically attractive person of any gender is with a fat man, the general assumption is that this fat man has to have overweight dating or some sort of power. Why else would someone who could presumably get with anyone they wanted choose to be with a disgusting fat man, right? This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing overweight dating their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have.
The truth: While there are, of course, some people who only seek relationships for money or power, the truth is that quite often, people will choose to be with a fat man because they actually want to be with him.
Slipped into this myth is a related fatphobic myth: that all fat people love to eat a lot of food, and all people who love to overweight dating food are fat. The truth: Put plainly, the assumption that fat people overweight dating only seek relationships with other fat people is false. Humans — fat, skinny, and in between — can be and often are attracted to a wide variety of people of all shapes and sizes. To assume that fat people will only ever be with fat people is at the very least ignorant, if not completely fatphobic and sizeist. The myth: All fat men, according to this worldview, are inherently less attractive than any partner they could ever have.
Fat people are simply tools to make their presumably non-fat partners feel more desirable. The truth: Just as some people might pursue a fat man for money or power, some people might only pursue fat men overweight dating seem more attractive to others. In reality, though, this seems to be less common than this answer would have us believe. This was the only truly mocking-free answer included in the top answers on the board.
That in itself is illustrative of the entrenched fatphobia on display overweight dating the rest of the answers. As evidence of this, one of the game show contestants gave an answer that ended up not being on the board: that a woman would date a fat man because he was good at sex.
Even worse, they alienate anyone who wants to be seen as more than just the caricature of themsleves painted by society. In other words, they know that no one else would want to be with them. The truth: To put it bluntly, this is straight up wrong.
This dehumanizing survey answer assumes that fatness is inherently correlated with desperation for sexual and romantic attention. As damning as it may be to admit, fat men are just as likely as any other men to cheat on their partners.
And even more crucially, this myth posits that fat men are so unattractive, no one would give them a chance overweight dating cheat on their partners, which, again, is also completely wrong to assume. As with all myths and stereotypes about a group of people, these five survey answers on Family Feud show the blatant body terrorism fat men are subjected to in our culture.
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Only then will we be able to make these myths and any overweight dating perceptions related to them obsoleted modes of thought instead of largely accepted norms. They are wearing a white t-shirt and baseball cap as they stare into the camera with a slight grin on their face.
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